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have heard an interesting metaphor:

says that life is like a running train, and you are the only driver on board.

when you drive to your destination, someone will get on the bus and someone will get off.

and among those who interact, there are bound to be like-minded people who share your interests, and there will be others who make you hate and hate.

but the initiative is always in your hands, so it's up to you to choose whether to throw away the steering wheel and tangle with them, or to continue to drive far away.

it's a long way, and no one can avoid meeting a few annoying people.

but if it's because of someone you hate, it affects your mood, or even your decision, then you point the gun at yourself.

Schopenhauer also said:

"getting angry at other people's behavior is as foolish as losing your temper at a stone on the way."

hate a person, the best way to deal with is not to say evil words, not tit-for-tat, but the following three.

ignore him

I read a post on Douban.

A person named

@ Azure

said that she had a very annoying colleague.

but whenever the colleague is in the dormitory, she wears headphones to avoid communicating with each other.

but as soon as the other person opens her mouth, her mood will hit rock bottom in an instant.

when she goes to work every day, she is very anxious for fear that she will have to share a room with her colleagues after work.

even if she is in time for her shift, when she is alone in the dormitory, she can't help checking the time and calculating how long her colleagues will have to come back.

listened warily to the footsteps outside the door, fearing that someone would open the door and come in the next second.

for this, she felt exhausted, but she didn't know what to do.

think of a sentence:

the extent to which a thing hurts you doesn't have much to do with it.

the extent of your injury depends on your attitude towards it.

if you take it seriously, you will be seriously hurt; if you despise, it will hurt slightly; if you ignore it, it will not hurt.

indeed, it's like a pile of filth around you. If you stare at it all the time, you will inevitably get in a bad mood.

look away so that you can still be clean.

those who make you feel painful and tortured, just because you care.

if you can ignore its existence and ignore it, the damage can be reduced to a minimum.

once saw an interview with Cai Lan, the host asked him what to think of the abuse against him on the Internet.

he replied that regardless of it, the greatest insult to the other party is not to answer.

as Jin Yong said:

"he is strong by him, the breeze blows the hills; he crosses him, and the moon shines on the river.

"

people's energy is so limited, why bother for the sake of those who hate it?

the smartest response is to be silent, and the top revenge is to turn a blind eye.

you are the only protagonist in this play of life. Don't let the people you hate rob the play and affect your wonderful performance.

stay away from him

there is a highly praised saying on the Internet:

"when you hate someone around you, the best way to express your disgust is not to argue with him, but to keep yourself away from him.

"

because when you hate someone, you will resist rejection from the bottom of your heart.

began to be calculating, serious everywhere, even driven by disgust, to do some radical behavior.

but from the moment you struggle with him, you can never get out of it.

have read such a story.

A boy named Paco came home angrily one day after school.

my father, who was working in the yard, hurriedly asked him what had happened.

the boy replied that he was deliberately tricked by a classmate named Joaquin to make a fool of himself in front of his friends.

now he hates Joaquin. I just hope something bad will happen to him, too.

Father turned to find a bag of charcoal and handed it to Paco, then pointed to the white shirt hanging in the yard and said to him:

"son, you now think of that shirt as Joaquin, and then regard charcoal as an unlucky thing in your imagination, and smash it hard. Every time you hit a piece, it means that something bad will happen to Joaquin."

Paco immediately agreed, throwing charcoal at the shirt one after another.

but the shirt hung a little far away, coupled with the frivolity of the wind, even if he threw all the charcoal, not many hit the shirt.

when his father asked him how he felt, Paco replied:

although very tired, but also very happy, because at least hit some.

when his father took him to the mirror, Paco realized that he was a complete "black" compared to the white shirt with only a few black marks.

the whole body is soiled by charcoal except for the teeth.

Nietzsche said:

"if you struggle with a dragon for too long, you will become a dragon; if you stare at the abyss for too long, the abyss will come back to gaze."

"

what you hatePeople, the greatest harm to you is not the thing itself, but the appearance that turns you into what you hate.

when someone taunts you, you respond bitterly;

if someone looks down on you, you will respond with disdain;

if someone is impolite to you, you will go back doubly impolitely.

this is the scariest part: putting the trajectory of your life in the hands of the people you hate most.

No longer entanglement, you can return to your consciousness; if you stay away from it as soon as possible, you can better protect yourself.

surpass him

Deng Zhonghan once said that the most grateful thing in his life was a senior executive of Sony, who was precisely one of the people he hated most in the past.

it was this executive who received him at the time.

Deng Zhonghan indicated to the other party that he wanted to recommend the chip for image processing to Sony.

the supervisor took a contemptuous look and then said in a very arrogant tone:

"our company has hundreds of such patents, and thousands of such products.

We are the ancestors of your chip technology.

if you want to study, I can show you around our honor room.

if you still insist on promoting your product, then I'm sorry, I have a meeting, I'm sorry. "

at that time, Deng Zhonghan felt ashamed and angry, but there was nothing he could do.

but it was precisely because of such hatred that he made up his mind to make a comeback.

the best way to face the people you hate is not to fight back, but to work harder and prove yourself with your strength.

when you climb to the top of the mountain, you will not hear the voices of contempt at the foot of the mountain.

surpassing him and doing better than him is the best way to fight back.

as Anland wrote: "you can't give up the world to someone you despise."

look at

pass a famous law of interpersonal relationship:

No matter what kind of circle you are in, the probability of meeting annoying people is basically the same.

even if you block one, there must be another one to make up.

since there is no way to avoid it, you might as well learn to deal with it in the most correct way.

ignore their existence and focus on their own affairs as much as possible;

Don't entangle, stay away as soon as possible, and minimize the damage to yourself;

even those voices of contempt and disdain might as well be used as a strange motivation.

when you can look down on those people you hate, you can live a comfortable life.

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