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be a man and do things, treat others with leniency, and take a step back in order to gain a foothold in this complicated society.

keeping a place for others is not only the top wisdom, but also the cultivation of a lifetime.

leave a step for others to get off

Einstein famously said, "the meaning of life is to put yourself in the shoes of others." Worry about the worries of others and rejoice in the happiness of others. "

really kind-hearted, considerate to others, timely safeguard the self-esteem of others.

only by interacting with people and comparing your heart to heart can you be good at interpersonal relationships.

Zhu Yuanzhang, the emperor of the Ming Dynasty, loved fishing.

one day, on a whim, he invited Xie Yu to accompany him to the Imperial Garden for fishing.

Xie Huan was so good at fishing that he soon caught a few fish and was very happy.

but Zhu Yuanzhang fished for a long time, but no fish took the bait and frowned.

Xie Jie soon sensed Zhu Yuanzhang's unhappy expression, and he was afraid that he would show himself in the limelight and get into trouble.

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so he thought of a plan and said respectfully, "your Majesty, those fish are very human and well-behaved."

Zhu Yuanzhang said, "how do you say that?"

Xie Xing sang a poem:

several feet of silk fell into the water and the gold hook was left behind without a trace.

all fish dare not face up to the son of Heaven, long live the king only fishing dragons.

he explained: "the fish are ordinary things and dare not meet the son of Heaven face to face. Only dragons can meet the son of Heaven!"

this poem not only gives Zhu Yuanzhang face, but also protects his self-esteem.

Zhu Yuanzhang then turned from anger to joy, eliminating his unhappiness.

know what to do and know how to think of others.

he not only saved a step for Zhu Yuanzhang, but also saved himself from punishment.

there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "where the road is narrow, leave one step with the pedestrian; where the taste is strong, minus three points for people to taste."

in interpersonal communication, everyone has different views on things, so it is easy to cause disputes.

if you have no regard for the feelings of others and argue with reason, it will only make people lose all their good feelings and put themselves at a disadvantage.

knowing how to give others a step down and resolve other people's embarrassment in a timely manner is the best way to deal with others.

after all, to be convenient with others is to be convenient with yourself.

for the rest of my life, I will be more magnanimous and less serious.

keep the limelight for others to occupy

Cao Cao is surrounded by two counsellors, Yang Xiu and Xunyou, both of whom come from a family and are very talented, but their fates are completely different.

Yang Xiucai was proud and did not know how to restrain himself. In the end, he was killed by Cao Cao because of the "chicken rib" incident.

at that time, Cao Cao and Liu Bei competed for Hanzhong and reached a stalemate. Cao Cao Jin could not win and retreated for fear of ridicule and a dilemma.

one day, when Cao Cao asked for the password, he said "chicken ribs". Everyone was confused, but Yang Xiu began to pack his bags.

he explained: "Chicken ribs are tasteless, but it is a pity to abandon them." it is speculated that Cao Cao, king of the Wei Dynasty, is going to evacuate.

it dawned on everyone, and they all began to pack up and prepare to evacuate.

Cao Cao was furious when he learned that Yang Xiu was confused and disturbed the morale of the army, so he ordered Yang Xiu to be killed.

Cao Cao is paranoid by nature and will not tolerate others to read his mind and act wiser than him.

Yang Xiucai was quick-witted and out of the limelight, but he was so clever that he lost his life in the end.

Xun you, on the other hand, knows how to be modest, wise and foolish, weak and timid in appearance, but insightful on the inside.

he was known as Cao Cao's "mastermind" because of his excellent military talents and brilliant plans, which helped Cao Cao win many times, but he never said a word more.

when giving advice, he always deliberately makes some obvious small mistakes and asks Cao Cao to correct them, so that the limelight is focused on Cao Cao.

when he is praised by Cao Cao, he always takes credit for other counselors, saying that he has also been instructed by others.

Xunyou was resourceful and clumsy, and Cao Cao thought highly of him and asked for a knighthood for him many times.

after his death, Xunyou was honored and respected by future generations.

Maugham wrote in the Moon and sixpence:

"what you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and the cleverness you want to be in the limelight all the time."

getting ahead of others step by step and being competitive in everything is nothing more than to take the limelight and take credit.

but the so-called "shooting a bird in the head" takes the limelight and reveals itself, and it will only offend others and be excluded by others.

in the end, people stayed away and lost the whole game.

the higher the level, the more they know how to restrain their edge and keep some of the limelight for others.

people live a lifetime, only by being kind to others can they move towards a harmonious life.

leave some benefits for others to earn

Li Hongzhang said: "to be able to suffer is a man of lofty ideals, and to be willing to suffer losses is not a fool."

as the saying goes: it is a blessing to suffer losses and to give up and gain.

only by giving benefits to others can we gather the hearts of the people and get greater benefits.

in 1997, a wealthy Japanese businessman came to Cao Dewang for help.

he is a supplier of Fuyao Glass. I hope Cao Dewang can buy more float glass from him every month, otherwise it will be unsalable in the warehouse and lose a lot.

everyone thought that Cao Dewang would take the opportunity to drive down the price.

he explained that when others are in trouble, we have to give him a hand and give away the benefits. It doesn't matter if we earn a little less.

Cao Dewang not only reaped wealth, but also won the hearts of the people by giving up for others.

later, after the financial crisis, the price of float glass began to rise.

but the price given to Cao Dewang by Japanese tycoons has not changed.

Napoleon once said:

"the world is yours if you know how to think of others, be able to look at problems from other people's point of view, think about problems, and actually help others solve problems."

in many cases, giving benefits to others is not only a stepping stone to one's own interpersonal relationship, but also a bridge to success.

leaving some benefits for others to earn is not only a spirit of being wise and foolish, but also a kind of broad bearing.

give people three points of profit, leave benefits to others, and win more room for their own development.

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the more advanced people are, the more they know how to achieve others.

not to embarrass people, not cowardice, but self-cultivation; not to steal the limelight, not incompetence, but conduct; not to take full advantage, not stupidity, but wisdom.

if you leave a place for others today, one day, others will do the same for you.

Confucian style Jun,